Conversing with Your Child


Try not to let your conversations about screen use end up in an argument.
Like many controversial topics, discussions around technology will have the power to gain or decay trust.

Most importantly, by listening with CARE and responding with LOVE, you will head down the route of building trust.

The elements of understanding, respect, and collaboration during conversations about screen time will make a difference.

Listen with C.A.R.E.

Stay curious when talking with us. Connection takes
work, and approaching our wants and ideas with
curiosity instead of criticism helps us feel like you
genuinely want to learn about us.

Make screen time conversations a space where we can
share our thoughts without fear of being shut down.
This doesn’t mean you always agree with us, but
putting aside your initial judgments and assumptions
creates room for a comfortable conversation.

Even though we are younger than you, our experiences
are no less important. Mutual respect allows for open
discussions. Appreciate that we have insights and
creative ideas that you may not have considered.

Take the time to step into our shoes and look at the
issue of screens from our perspective. Your compassion
will build trust and promote healthy interactions.


Respond with L.O.V.E.
Ask thoughtful, gentle questions with the goal of
understanding where we’re coming from. It’s okay if
you don’t have all the answers! If you’re at a loss for
how to respond, turn to your inquisitive side and take
advantage of the opportunity to ask rather than lecture.
Keep a positive attitude and express confidence in us
whenever possible. Remember that all conversations,
difficult ones included, are part of the continuous process
towards healthier screen use as well as
stronger parent-child bonds.
Before sharing your perspective, try responding to
us with “I can see how you feel that way,” “What
you’re saying makes sense,” or “I hear you, and
what you’re saying is valid and important.” This
simple act of acknowledgement will contribute to
greater trust and understanding.
Make it clear that you WANT to hear your teen’s
perspective. After articulating your opinions, show
involvement and support. You could ask: “Is there any
way I can help?” or “What would you like from me?”
Want to know more how you can better converse with your child through this whole technology issue?
Check out ZACHDEV – TECH PARENTING ebook today!